Speaking Truthfully to an Addict
Be courageous and speak the truth
So, I talked to parents and spouse and brothers and sisters all the time who’s loved ones are suffering from addiction and they’re afraid and they’re also really afraid to speak truthfully to the person who’s suffering, and I would say, obviously to get some help, if you need help doing that, but that it’s about speaking truthfully to people and telling them how it impacts you.
Now if somebody’s deep in addiction they might or might not be able to hear that and you might need a professional to come in and work with that person, but just like I was talking to a mom yesterday, and what I told her was, you can’t be afraid to go away for the holidays and tell your son that you’re not going to bring him, because he almost died from an alcohol overdose and you’re afraid to bring him.
So, you have to tell him, “I love you very much, but I’m afraid to bring you. You know because of your alcoholism.” So, I think being able to be truthful, compassionate if possible, not losing your temper if possible, I think that’s nice, but being courageous and speaking truth. And it’s a really painful job that loved ones have because sometimes these addictions span on for years and years, you know.
Get the help that you need
The other thing I would say, is to make sure you’re taking care of yourself, like you’re – you know, you are – you’re engaged with somebody in addiction with this child or something like that, like you’re getting hurt day in and day out, and so you really have to take care of yourself in order just to have the strength that you can be, let alone have those conversations.
The final thing that I would say, is to make sure you’re getting the help that you need and speak compassionate truth to the person that you love.
speak compassionate truth to the person that you love